Updated: Feb 8, 2021
Men, how do you know if your rib is ready to be extracted? Women, are we allowing God to mold us , the rib, into the woman that will match what we need? Let us explore this looking through the Adam and Eve experience.
So, its almost valentine's day and this whole entire day month is considered to be the "love" month. I couldn't let this topic past as a lot of singles dread this day, especially if we desire marriage. I want to explore the feelings on why we want we want and are we prepared to receive what we want. Believe it or not, how to prepare for a marriage is in the Bible. I love the Bible, it definitely is life's manual here on earth.
At first I didn't know how I would entitle this week's blog, I just knew that I wanted to discuss the process on how Adam and Eve came together. First and foremost, God was involved in the whole entire process. Eve was actually molded for Adam. Let that sink in. If anyone has ever read how Adam and Eve were created, we focused purely on that but they were created for a purpose.
God said in Genesis 2:18,
"It is not good (beneficial) for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper (one who balances him- a counterpart who is) suitable and complementary for him" (AMP)
A lot of people may perceive this verse in scripture as God directly speaking about a mate. The actual meaning was exactly what it says but was not limited to marriage.
God made all of these animals and brought them in front of Adam to name in verse 19 of chapter 2 in Genesis and Adam named them. Obviously, Adam did not name any of these animals his equal. So he put Adam to sleep and extracted a rib from his body. This is when God formed Eve out of Adams ribs. God then brought her in front of Adam and NOW this is when Adam has identified Eve as his equal.
Then Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man. For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:23-24 AMP)
Okay so now that I have laid down the foundation, lets dig right on in.
First and foremost, Adam had a job, he was working in the garden of Eden to cultivate (prepare for use, acquire) and keep it before Eve was ever thought of. God decided that He needed help. Not just someone to be at his side with no purpose, and definitely not a person that would be a hinderance. So I am saying all of this for the men that want a wife, have you met the minimum requirements needed for God to develop someone that will help you. You have to first be doing something in order to need help right? I believe this is an important part in scripture for a man looking for a wife. You have to be about your business cultivating and preparing something! God will not make a woman to fit into your mess. Yes, you can get a woman, a wife, no matter where you are, but is that what God had in mind? I really can go on and on with this but I am not here to write a book (lol).
Women, the rib that had been prepared for Adam. Are you allowing God to develop you into the woman that will help? Or are we looking for someone to fit into our mess as well? What tools do we have to be able to help a man about his business. Will your business match what He has going on? We can't be lazy ribs women. According to the word of God, this rib, this woman is an asset to the man. Your husband will be an asset to you and not a liability. If he is, is that truly your Adam? Sometimes our preferences can be a mismatch to what God has for us. We as ribs can't decide what cavity we belong to. Again, like I stated from the beginning, God was involved. God presented what was made to Adam and He had to decide if she was suitable to help him. Whew!
Men, are you in a place where you can detect your rib? God may bring her to you but because of your preferences you don't or won't know what belongs to you or is an asset to your garden. Jesus!
I wanted whomever will read this to truly reflect on this as Valentine's day is approaching. I want us to make sure that we are not filling empty spots in our hearts because of a man made holiday, filling empty spots because they are empty and that filling not having purpose. Whomever is added to your life has to have purpose in your life. Period. The Adam and Eve Experience is the design on how God wants marriage to be. It was God first, God lead, and God developed. In so much so that when you are put together with your husband that you are one flesh. This is permanent.
Men and women, marriage that we want is a permanent situation, permanent labor, and permanent commitment. We all should WANT to do it by God's rules! It takes God to keep loving your spouse every day, It takes God to mold you into what will be a help to one another.
So if you are alone this valentine's day, and desire marriage, you are not lonely. Can we look at it another way? This is the time to love on yourself as much as possible while waiting. Make plans, treat yourself, make it all about you and allow God to prepare you to match you with someone that will help you make His name great. You know that is the purpose right? Marriage is not for out comfort, because Adam was good. He never requested someone to help Him. God saw fit! So ladies and gentleman, when God sees fit, you will fit with whom you need in order to glory him. We have to be careful and seek that our future marriages glorify Him and that we not glorify the bonuses of the marriage. Amen? Amen.