It's almost Valentine's Day! For some of the singles, this may be one of the worst ones yet, but It doesn't have to be! Read on to learn how to make this V-Day your Me Day!
This is definitely a blog that I did not plan on writing, but the subject was heavy on my heart in hopes to uplift the singles right now as Valentines Day is approaching in only a few days. I can admit that this day use to be difficult for me. I would always long for someone to bring me flowers, candies, etc. You know, the usual Valentine Day "hoorah" and scrolling down my timeline didn't make it any better. There were couples being engaged, elaborate gifts given, and dinner plans made. It would make me dread Valentines Day because it made me feel like I was in lack and was a reminder of my marriage that fell apart.
I have been on a deep healing journey for the last couple of years and have learned to love myself in ways that I never thought was possible. This year started off with flowers. This was the first time that I bought myself a bouquet of roses. As I prepared them to put them in my vase and neatly placed the display on my dining room table, I grinned and became giddy. I would look back at them, smell them, and admired the display every time I would walk past. I was happy, and no one was responsible for that but me. How freeing!
Now I know people may look at this as abnormal and "Why would you buy yourself flowers? That's stupid...what is she trying to prove?"
I am proving that you can love yourself and be content, despite of your hearts desires not coming to pass yet.
This blog is important for me to write because I felt the burden. The burdens of those that have lost loved ones unexpectedly, the ones that are recently divorced, and the ones that desire marriage and are on the verge of giving up on waiting for their mates.
This is to encourage those that in the meantime, you can love on yourself and will see that it is the best thing that you can do for your emotional and mental health. Unplug from social media, buy your own bouquet of flowers, buy your own candies, plan a night in, plan a movie marathon, plan a meal that you have been eyeing on #pinterest, take a nice candle lit bubble bath. (That is my plan *smile*)
Don't wait around for someone to do what you can do for yourself
I even encourage those to NOT drown this Valentines day in being "busy" and ambitious ( if that makes any sense). Deal with why this day is uncomfortable for you. Don't drown it out with work and wait for it to pass. If you don't deal with it now, you definitely will deal with it even in marriage or a relationship. Start the inner healing by loving on yourself. It doesn't have to cost a lot of money, but it does have to leave you appreciating who you are. It has to make you proud of your triumphs you have overcome, and it definitely has to remind you that you are worth it.
So, who is ready to take on the #Medaychallenge?
Treat yourself! Love on yourself! Turn this day from dreadful to delightful.
Happy Valentine's Day and God Bless!